Saturday 30 July 2011

Reasons for Using Single Online Dating Service

Dating can be quite daunting for those who are shy and feel awkward meeting new people. However, being shy and introverted does not mean that they do not crave for company. Under the circumstances, online dating is a great way of ensuring that you meet likeminded individuals without feeling the awkwardness. Whilst this is a great reason, it is important to note that this is not the sole reason. So, if you are single and are looking for a life partner or soul mate, then there are several reasons why you should opt for such online services.

Online dating services for those who are single offer a variety in terms of people, both geographically as well as otherwise, unlike any other dating service. In other words, given that online dating services link people through the net, geographical distances play no role. This not only helps you meet different people from different walks of life but also ensures that you meet people from different places, thereby broadening your outlook in life.

Moreover, if you are looking for singles within a particular category or class, it has never been easier than with such online dating services. Given that there are several dating websites catering to specific groups, identifying these websites will help you find other likeminded individuals who are single and fit your requirements.

Online dating sites offer several other facilities to their patrons, including dating advice, news, profile updates and the like. Apart from this, online dating sites help you in matching your requirements with the perfect profile available with them, which make it really easy for you to search for your soul mate. It is important however, to choose a website that offers all such advice as well as matching privately, without it becoming common knowledge.

Finally, as mentioned earlier, these online dating sites are great places where individuals who are single can have fun, without experiencing any awkwardness or shyness.

Friday 29 July 2011

Relationship Rules

Oh, wow! Relationship rules actually exist? Most definitely – and these wise conventions can be applied regardless of whether your relationship is serious or casual, long-term or short. Here they are:
 
Be yourself - Don't ever lose sight of yourself.  Like, even love yourself and put your happiness first. You can make others happy only if you are joyful. Other than ensuring you have a positive attitude and strong self-esteem, also ask yourself if you are mentally prepared to date again before you start a new round of meeting potential partners.

Establish true intimacy with great communication skills – This means getting through clearly to the other person, both verbally and nonverbally. There is no way your relationship is going anywhere in terms of closeness and love without establishing excellent two-way communication between both of you. Don’t be satisfied with just pumping blood and superficialities. Learn to talk about anything and everything – not just your present interests, but your future goals and aspirations as well.

Learn good negotiation skills – Often excellent communication needs to be supported by negotiation. Often issues can arise in a relationship that must be dealt with using both, and the partners involved must consciously work through any conflict with true respect for each other in order to ensure the relationship sails through any stormy patches. 

Use TLC on your relationship to nurture it – Tender loving care in the form of respect, appreciation, kindness, reciprocal, and attentiveness on a daily basis ensures that you display how much you value and cherish your partner’s involvement in your life.

Try to make each date enjoyable – Attempting to make your date a fun one and your partner enjoy himself or herself not only makes you feel great, but also shows that you care and that you are attracted. Don’t be overly concerned about making the date an expensive affair – that matters much less in your partner’s mind than how much fun it was.

Thursday 28 July 2011

Singlehood: Two kinds of feelings

Singlehood is a combination of two kinds of feelings. One is a feeling of unfulfilment or dissatisfaction. You feel the need to share life with someone and the presence of your better half whenever you need him/her. However, do not let this feeling of unfulfilment or dissatisfaction overpower the feeling of self esteem and fulfillment.

Singlehood teaches you to stay happy all by yourself. It teaches to become independent and prepares you to solve problems on your own. It gives you an opportunity of self exploration and have deep insights into yourself. You can utilize the free time in pursuing your hobbies such as painting, reading, pottery, gardening etc. If interested, social work can be undertaken along with initiatives for some serious campaigns to spread awareness among the masses. This way, single people can make a difference to other people’s lives and contribute to the well being of the society.

The second feeling is the feeling of boredom and unhappiness which leads to self pity and even to depression in certain cases. There might be times when single people miss the company of a loved one in middle of a romantic movie, or when they have a free weekend ahead. Some people start attributing their singlehood to their physical looks and thereby indulge in self pity. It is important for single people to cherish this state as a self realization phase in life.

Single people should learn to live life to the fullest. They should make friends and go out for dinners, movies, social parties and other events. They can form a group of their own with people of similar interests and hobbies. Also, single people have the opportunity of dating. However, they should not become serial daters. Dating should be done as a means to find a serious match and to build a long term relationship.

Wednesday 27 July 2011

Unacceptable Things in Dating

In order to enjoy a successful dating, you need to consider many things. Successful dating always mean both the man and the woman were happy about meeting each other and enjoyed each other’s company. Dating becomes a bad experience when you do not give much importance to it and ends up doing things that are unacceptable. Here are some of the unacceptable things that you should not do while dating.

Shabby dressing! You date somebody when you think he/she is perfect for you. So when it is a perfect occasion, go dressed up in your best clothes. Do not look shabby or uninterested. Your interest in dating can reflect in your dressing, attitude and mood. So be your best on your date, which will automatically impress the other person. Dressing perfectly in good clothes suiting your personality will also make you feel comfortable and confident.

Not hygienic! You need to give more importance to this factor. Personal hygiene is very important. You cannot afford to look untidy and messy on your date. Remember the first impression you make will decide how the relation goes ahead. So be at your best!

Lying! You might think that a little bit of lying will not affect dating and it will serve as a catalyst in building the relation. It is completely wrong! Lying at the beginning of a relation will give it a false base and it will crumble when the other person finds out the truth. Always be honest to your dating partner.

Imitation! Be yourself on your date and do not try to imitate another person. Your partner will be looking for the real you and not a reflection of somebody else.

Drinking! Getting drunk in dating is certainly not accepted. Dating is an opportunity where you and your partner communicate and exchange views about each other. Getting drunk will make you lose that opportunity.

Saturday 23 July 2011

How to Arrange a Date

Your latest love-interest has agreed for a date. The onus is now on you to fix the venue and the time.  Here are some quick tips to ensure you get all the arrangements right:

Try to secure a date within a few days of her saying yes – If there is a wait of over a week it will only cause increased stress levels.

Pick an informal venue that is fun and relaxed – It should offer your first date some amount of flexibility and not induce anxiety. You need to focus on your match, not on what food to order or which cutlery to use.

Check that the location easy to reach – Your match should be able to reach the place conveniently by any of the common modes of transportation.  

Fix a mutually convenient time – If it is a dinner date, you and your prospective match should have enough time to get ready and get to the venue without feeling rushed. Don’t be late, consider a lunch date too.

Don't ring your match constantly to check their whereabouts – it creates a panicky, obsessive impression.  Never stand up a date either. If you cannot make it, call ahead of time to reschedule.

Make an effort to dress well for the occasion though the date may be an informal one – Pay special attention to styling and hygiene issues.

Don’t make the mistake of drinking alcohol to steady yourself – If you get anxious, try some deep breathing or meditation techniques.

Don't attempt to impress your match with wealth – Picking the most expensive restaurant in town and flaunting all your credit cards can turn off a lot of women.

Get organized – Don’t forget your mobile phone or wallet.  Be certain about the directions to the venue of your date.

Ensure your apartment is neat and clean as you never what can happen – That being said, don’t expect sex on your first date, though it doesn’t hurt to be prepared.

You are dating to basically meet a nice match.  It should not be a stress-inducing experience, so remember to be optimistic and enjoy yourself.

Friday 22 July 2011

Tips to Impress Your Match on Your First Date

Finding a match for your date through dating sites is one of the common ways. It is easy, fast, reliable and convenient in this stressful life, where work consumes most of the time of your day. If you have already found to a perfect match for a special date, you might find it difficult to impress him/her, and might be hesitant in communicating properly. If you are facing these difficulties, here are some ways by which you can impress your match on that special day! Read on to know more about the secrets behind impressing your match.

Before the meeting you both have planned together, make sure that you are completely relaxed – keep aside all your worries and tensions when you go to meet your match. Take a look at his/her profile once more and remember something that you liked or found to be interesting about your match. You can impress your match by mentioning that you found some of these things interesting.

Be appropriately dressed in a neatly ironed dress. If you are going on your own vehicle, make sure it is clean too. Getting a small but a memorable gift will be a good idea –if your gift is something your match likes, it would be impressive. You can know your match’s likes from the online profile.

Communication is important on a date. Be honest and open when you talk to your date. Also try to make the conversation as interesting as possible. Discuss things which the other person is familiar about or likes. That would show that you give respect and are not rude. Always try to maintain an eye contact while talking to your match and be genuinely interested in the conversation. Be more receptive of different ideas during discussion. If you are good at cracking jokes, go ahead and do it, and impress your date!

Thursday 21 July 2011

Meeting Your Match: First-Date Slips to Avoid

Have you wondered why first dates start out well but don’t get off the ground? Here is what to look out for – common errors men and women commit on their initial dates:

Don’t dress to kill
 
Don’t dress for the boudoir in revealing clothes – leave something to the imagination! By doing so you convey the wrong message –you’re not in the match for the long haul but just looking for a physical encounter.

Don’t flirt with wait staff
Don’t stare at the wait staff. A roving eye is off-putting in either sex. You are on a date – so focus on your prospective match. Nothing is more flattering than someone who responds with appreciation and their undivided attention.

Don’t flaunt your smart phone

Don’t let your cell phone be a distraction. Switch it to silent mode and keep it out of sight – calls can wait. Don’t create the impression that texting is more important than your potential match.

Don’t talk about your exes

This includes not just old flames and spouses but your former jobs too. Don’t depend on sob stories to gain attention and sympathy. Keep the conversation amusing and lighthearted. Try topics like holiday destinations, films, books and enjoyable hobbies.

Do your research

This date may be one in a series of people you are meeting through an online dating service and it can be confusing, but if you want the relationship to progress you have to get your facts right about the person. Print out and read through the profile of your match several times and add any notes about chat sessions and conversations you might have shared.

Finally, don’t act needy even if you do connect well on the first date. Demonstrate that you have a happy and complete life that will only get better with that special somebody. Dating can run a longish course - just focus on enjoying the process and take it as it goes.

Wednesday 20 July 2011

Advantages of Online Chatting

Online chatting helps to boost confidence of individuals especially people who are single and loners. Online chatting and flirting can give boost to the self esteem of singles at the time when it is most needed. Also broken hearts can use online chatting as a medium to forget their worries and try to establish a new relationship. They have the benefit to meet new people in chatting forums, without physically be present at night bars or clubs. They can stay anonymous and chat in the comfortable environment of their homes.

Social networking sites and online chatting websites help you to meet people with similar interests and hobbies such as sports, music, dance, creativity, academics etc. This kind of online chatting can be used to form serious and long term relationships. Online chatting provides opportunity to talk to strangers without disclosing personal information or crucial details. Whenever participants become comfortable with each other, they can share details about appearance, location, age etc.

Also online chatting is becoming increasingly prevalent as people have become too busy in their lives and hardly get time to meet people. Online chatting is a very convenient way to date and meet someone special. These days everyone has computers and internet connection at home, therefore accessing the internet has become very easy. Even most mobile phones have the features to browse the internet. This has made internet one of the most prevalent source in communication as it can be accessed anytime and from anywhere.  

One of the biggest advantages of online chatting is quick exit. It is easy to leave chatting is you are uncomfortable chatting with the person. Unlike a night club or a bar, where it is difficult to escape annoying people, online chatting just requires you to sing off from the chat window. Thus whenever you think the discussion or the chat is going in the wrong direction and has no fruitful result; you always have the option to quit chatting.

Tuesday 19 July 2011

Why Should You Choose Webcam Chatting?

Technological innovations have been helping mankind live life in an easier and faster way. Communication is possible through many ways, of which online chatting is helping many people find the love of their life. The chat room numbers are increasing across the world and more people are finding it easy to communicate to whomever they want to.

If your interest is to find a person from any other country and start a relation, an online chat room is the best place, irrespective of your current location. Webcam chatting has been a favourite among more people for past few years because it helps people see, and hear the other person talking. Here is why you should switch to webcam chatting.

Keeping your anonymity is possible on online chat rooms. But if you want to reveal your identity to the other person, it is possible - through webcam chatting. You can see if your date is the way you expected him/her to be and if he/she was being truthful to you about himself/herself.

Webcam chatting through internet gives you more credibility as you can see your partner and interact. It also helps you understand your partner’s feelings from his/her expressions. Webcam chatting is similar to that of meeting somebody in person.

Chatting through internet costs you lesser than talking to somebody through phone. You can continue chatting as long as you wish to as it is quite affordable. These days almost all the internet cafes have webcams, which come without any additional charges. Another positive factor about online chatting that it helps you stay in touch with family and friends staying abroad.

If you want to set up a webcam chat room in your house, that is also possible if you have a fast computer, a webcam and a reliable and faster internet connection. This will help you chat with your partner in the comforts of your home and you can enjoy the privacy.

Monday 18 July 2011

How to Be More Successful in Online Chat Rooms

With online dating becoming increasingly popular, it is hardly surprising that you find many likeminded singles searching for their perfect partners. However, not everyone is really successful and this is largely because of their inability to use the online dating chat rooms successfully. Communication is the key to successful online dating and if you are really looking for success then it is important to communicate properly. Following are some simple ways and etiquette, which if followed should get you maximum success in online dating.

Always be polite when you are chatting with someone on an online dating website. Decorum and basic etiquette is absolutely essential if you want to make a good impression. Moreover, it is also important to be yourself and not try and be someone else. Most people looking for online dates often try to change their basic personalities, which often results in failure.

Similarly, when chatting online it is important to understand that two different individuals have different viewpoints about different things. While it is easy to argue about various things, make sure you limit your arguments to less serious topics and not indulge in any serious debate. Do remember that there is nothing like a serious debate to put your partner off dating you.

Be pleasant and cheerful when you chat, always indulging in a little humor. Humor, especially when it is good humor, always attracts the attention of the other individual. Similarly, being attentive and responding to questions and asking some of your own shows interest and keeps the conversation moving. In other words, when the other person asks you a question, do not respond with a single word and leave it at that.

Lastly, when you chat, pay attention to your spellings as well as grammar as there is no bigger put off than wrongly spelt words and bad grammar. Similarly, do not write in capital letters as this is akin to shouting, which should be refrained from.

Saturday 16 July 2011

What to Wear for a First Date

First dates are your first chance to make a great first impression. That makes it a perfect recipe for pressure – pressure to look your best, pressure to be punctual, pressure to be attractive, pressure to be liked and so on. Keep these tips in mind to help you decide what to wear for your first date.

Wear your best dress. Keep it simple and elegant. Wear bright colours. Steer clear of all whites and all blacks. That steals the colour away from your personality. Men can play it safe with a shirt and great pair of jeans. Women must insist on going the tried and tested way. Do not try on a new style or design. Be yourself. Wear an outfit that compliments you and ensure you have already worn it a couple of times before.

Footwear must be comfortable and trendy. Ensure you match it to your dress. Do not wear stilettoes or high heeled shoes that you are unaccustomed to. Ensure the soles are not wooden or metallic. The noise will make your shoes announce you have arrived before you actually reach the venue.

Do not be overdressed. A coat, shrug and muffler with mittens do not add up to give an elegant dress. Dress according to the weather but do not overdo it. Refrain from skin show. Strike a balance between covering up and dressing sexy. You want to be known for who you are and not what you are wearing or showing.

Do your hair up in a neat and fuss free style.  Keep it washed, smelling great and always carry a brush to set it right when needed. Avoid artificial hair extensions, wigs and toupees. You must be natural to be liked.

Both men and women must compliment their body contours with appropriate clothes. Accentuate your assets, underplay your flaws and feel confident. Always smell good by putting on eau de colognes and perfumes on your pulse points. Wear your smile and you are ready for your date.

Friday 15 July 2011

Best Ways to Ask Her Out on a Date

You may be bold. You may be confident, accomplished and eloquent. But, when it comes to making date requests to a special girl, most guys are at a loss of words. Read on to put your act together and make the right move.

“Ask and thou shall receive” must be your motto. Fear of rejection can dissuade you from asking her out on a date with you. But, in the event you lose a great opportunity because you did not ask, you will regret it for a while. Be direct and never try asking through mediators. Girls do not like messengers and if things could go worse, she may actually like the messenger, sending your date plans to the trash bin.

Ask her what she likes to do on weekends. Then announce a plan of her interest and ask her to join you. For instance if she likes watching plays, you simply have to arrange for tickets to a popular show around the weekend. Your date is assured.

Find out what ice creams she likes. Invite her to join you on ice cream parlour “hopping”.
If she likes books, pretend you need to buy books and would love the assistance of an avid reader like her. If you have a sister then ask your girl to help you buy her a gift. This way you can find out her choices as well. That will obviously come in handy when you go gift shopping for her.

Persuade her to accompany you to a game of soccer or baseball. Watching matches is exciting. Girls nowadays are sports inclined too. Enquire if astronomy is interesting to her and take her to the planetarium. Follow it up with some real star gazing under the night sky. That is a sure date.

Thursday 14 July 2011

Tips for Being Successful when you Date Online

With online dating becoming increasingly popular, it is hardly surprising that there are several websites offering these services today. Whilst choosing the perfect online dating site is daunting, given the sheer number of sites available, it is equally difficult to get the perfect date online. There are several factors that you should consider when dating online, especially with regard to your security as well as the overall success of your dating experience. Following are some aspects, which if considered will result in a successful online dating experience.

Firstly, it is important not to expect a lot out of your first foray into online dating. In other words, despite the fact that several people opt for online dating services, you may or may not meet your perfect partner immediately. It is important to be patient and interact with as many individuals as you can before choosing your perfect partner.

Honesty is the best policy, apart from being an old adage, is an extremely important rule in online dating. When you date online, ensure that while you are honest about yourself, your likes and preferences you do not divulge any detailed personal information to strangers. Exchanging information about your likes and preferences will help identify more people who share the same interests, which in turn increase your chances of finding the perfect partner.

To be successful in online dating, it is important to market yourself to others and a good profile is an excellent marketing tool when you date online. It is always easier to create an attractive and effective profile if you understand your target audience. Making a list of qualities that you seek in your partner will help identify the perfect target audience for your profile.

When you date online, it is important to be extremely observant about the other individual. Make sure you read the emails carefully whilst also observing as to whether the other individual has read yours. And lastly, make sure you always hit the right note by being casual and friendly whilst not being overly effusive. 

Wednesday 13 July 2011

How to Date Online in a Safe Manner

Dating online is an extremely convenient way to meet other likeminded singles and establish relationships. However, it is not without its problems or dangers and for those wanting to move ahead the online way, it is important to ensure maximum safety. Following are some simple tips that you should follow to date online in a safe and secure manner.

Primarily, it is important to learn everything about online dating before you decide to date online. In other words, read everything that is available about such dating practices and ensure that you are aware of all the dangers, pitfalls as well as the advantages of such dating before you decide to adopt it.

Secondly, despite the fact that honesty is a good policy in dating, make sure that you do not divulge important personal information to someone you meet online, without completely knowing the individual. Always keep it casual, talking about your personal preferences whilst not going into detail about your personal information. However, where the individual offers certain personal information, make sure you check the same and verify its truth before proceeding to date the person.

Always be realistic dating online and give it the same amount of time as you would in any traditional dating relationship. In other words, it is important to note that while online dating offers a wide range of people to meet and choose from, it is important to be prepared for not meeting the person of your dreams immediately.

When dating online, it is important to use all the tools that are available with online dating services, like instant messaging, internet chat, emails, ICQ and the like to interact with one another. It is important to go slow and steady using emails and public forums before initiating personal discussions.

Finally, when you decide to date online, make sure you review all websites that offer online dating services before choosing the one that suits your needs.

Tuesday 12 July 2011

Dating For Single Mothers

If you’re a single mother and are wondering whether to start dating, you should know that you can make the process easy for you and your children. You would obviously be worried about the impact your dating might have on your child, but with a bit of care, you can avoid the obvious pitfalls.

You might have started thinking about dating because you’ve met someone who you think you want to spend time with. First, if you’re already feeling guilty about this, don’t. You are single, and have a right to seek happiness and companionship. You will also, obviously, not start ignoring your child because there’s someone new in your life. Make sure that this person knows about your child and how imperative his or her care is to you. He has to understand and accept that your child is a very important part of your life. Keep the dates slow, and don’t rush into anything. This is especially true for deciding when to tell your child about the new person in your life. It is probably best not to introduce him to your child unless you are relatively sure that this will be a long term thing. Once you do decide to go ahead, consider introducing him as a friend or a colleague. This will help you kid keep an open mind, and also might make things easier for your partner. Give them both a chance to get to know each other.

Once you open up to your child, ask him how he feels about your partner. Listen to his concerns attentively so that he does not feel displaced in your life. Your child might go through a sudden phase of possessiveness where you’re concerned. Make him understand that he’s still your priority and make time for events for just the two of you, or with your family. Besides all this, most importantly, remember to have fun!

Monday 11 July 2011

How to Intrigue a Man on Your First Date

Have you just spent an hour on your hair and nails just before a date? Chances are that the great guy you are dating will barely notice these. How do you pique his interest on your first date so that he calls you for a second and a third and a … Here are some really easy guidelines to attract him, hold a fascinating conversation and make him want to know you better.

·         Be on time – Don’t be tardy. Men may show up late on subsequent dates, but they are usually on the dot on the first one. And it certainly doesn’t create a good impression when you are not.

·         Make an effort to look good – You may be dating at an informal venue, but dress up - informal doesn’t mean shabby. At least present a neat appearance and make sure your footwear, nails and hair are clean. Men appreciate dating an attractively dressed woman.

·         Tell him something new he did not already know – Fill him up on a little health or fitness trivia or some interesting news item you came across recently.  If you are smart, it will spark his interest as men typically like to be challenged.

·         Tell him about your interests – Don’t talk about hobbies that are terribly girlie like collecting lace doilies and so on. You could tell him about your passion for painting though.  He should be especially intrigued if you have healthy outdoor pursuits. 

·         Order food like a man - Guys are bowled over when women order typically male items like steak or a drink of dark stout. 

·         Don't moan - Things may go awry - your steak may not be cooked to perfection or it may begin to rain heavily when you leave the restaurant, but don’t complain. Men really appreciate it when you handle such situations with poise, patience and maturity.

While you should behave pleasantly, don’t forget to be yourself.  Finally, don’t get nervous – relax and enjoy the dating process.

Saturday 9 July 2011

Happy Being Single

It can be tough to be single when all your friends around you are married or in a relationship. It’s hard not to feel like a third wheel and you might start wanting to decline invitations to meet your happily paired-up friends. If you aren’t taking a break from dating, and are on the lookout for that perfect person, be happy while you’re looking. Easier said than done? Read on.

First – realize that if you are single, it isn’t a problem. Don’t focus on what you don’t have; be happy about the things that others envy you for. This is the time for you to savor your freedom and indulge yourself. It is also an opportunity for you to spend some time with yourself, figuring out what you really want. Catch up with old friends, read the books you’ve bought but haven’t started as yet. And pamper yourself—you deserve it. Join a gym and indulge in spa weekends. Go shopping and splurge on clothes, shoes, that new bag – whatever you want. If you know you’re looking better, you will feel more confident, and that will show in your attitude.

Don’t refuse invitations to go out. Think about focusing on friendships, old and new. Surround yourself with positive people. Now is not the time to encourage those who are skeptical about love and relationships. Get out there. You’re only going to meet someone if you go out and look. Meet friends, enjoy time out with them, and let them pair you up with people. You’re also free to play the field, remember? Accept dates, and take the pressure off yourself to find someone. You’ll be surprised to see yourself having fun. At worst, you might not find someone you want to date, but you’ll probably have a good time while you’re waiting for the “one” to come along.

Friday 8 July 2011

Tips for Safe Online Dating


With online dating becoming increasingly popular, it is hardly surprising that there are several websites offering these services. However, despite the convenience and the ease afforded by these services, it is important to ensure safety and reliability before going ahead. In other words, the risks involved and the dangers of using such services is too high and need to be understood and taken care of, before indulging in online dates. Following are some basic tips, which if followed will result in a safe and enjoyable experience.

Firstly, it is important not to give out any detailed personal information to such sites, unless you know the other individual very well and can trust him or her. It is important to note that not everybody needs to know you personal contact details or even information regarding where you stay and the like.

Additionally, it is important never to believe everything that is said through this medium, especially where you are not sure of the individual making the statement. Always check and verify each statement made by another before believing or acting upon it. If you are made privy to any personal information of any person chatting with you online, make sure that you check the information in detail to confirm the veracity of the individual.

Never enter into any financial transactions with people you meet online. Scams are aplenty on the internet and some of the biggest scams occur through online dating. Always make sure that there is no discussion with regard to money with your prospective dates.

When the relationship progresses to a stage where you want to meet personally, ensure that you meet each other in a public place. Additionally, always inform your friends and family before going on any such date and ensure that you check in with them in a timely fashion.

Lastly, whilst online dating is definitely exciting and fun, it is always advisable to take your time before proceeding in any direction. Get to know the other person in detail before committing to a relationship.

Thursday 7 July 2011

How to Start Dating Again

There are many people who take themselves off the dating circuit for a while because of bad relationships, lack of time, etc. Whatever your reason for doing so, if you want to get back into the game, here’s how to do it.

Prepare yourself mentally. If you’ve not been on a date for a while, chances are that you’ll have to really put some thought into it. Be sure that getting out there and possibly facing emotional upheaval is something you are up to. Indulge in some beauty treatments; go shopping and get that new dress that you know will look good on you. Looking better will boost your confidence.  Tell your friends and family that you’re back in the dating game. And do meet the people they try and match you up with, even if the person doesn’t sound perfect to you. You never know how someone actually is till you meet him or her. So give blind dates a try. Don’t focus on finding the right person in every date. Most people are nice, even though they might not be right as a partner for you. If you focus on ticking off your checklist for the perfect match, you might miss making some good friends along the way. Also, avoid excessively negative people. You might have some great friends who speak against love and relationships, but these are not the people you need around you right now. Hang out with your single friends; go to clubs and places where you can meet new people. Even if you don’t meet someone new every time, you’ll at least have a good time while waiting!

Finally, if you do meet someone who you think might be “the one”, don’t get too clingy. Find out how he or she feels and give time to the relationship to develop. Don’t let your other relationships fall by the wayside—your family and friends are equally important.