Tuesday 12 July 2011

Dating For Single Mothers

If you’re a single mother and are wondering whether to start dating, you should know that you can make the process easy for you and your children. You would obviously be worried about the impact your dating might have on your child, but with a bit of care, you can avoid the obvious pitfalls.

You might have started thinking about dating because you’ve met someone who you think you want to spend time with. First, if you’re already feeling guilty about this, don’t. You are single, and have a right to seek happiness and companionship. You will also, obviously, not start ignoring your child because there’s someone new in your life. Make sure that this person knows about your child and how imperative his or her care is to you. He has to understand and accept that your child is a very important part of your life. Keep the dates slow, and don’t rush into anything. This is especially true for deciding when to tell your child about the new person in your life. It is probably best not to introduce him to your child unless you are relatively sure that this will be a long term thing. Once you do decide to go ahead, consider introducing him as a friend or a colleague. This will help you kid keep an open mind, and also might make things easier for your partner. Give them both a chance to get to know each other.

Once you open up to your child, ask him how he feels about your partner. Listen to his concerns attentively so that he does not feel displaced in your life. Your child might go through a sudden phase of possessiveness where you’re concerned. Make him understand that he’s still your priority and make time for events for just the two of you, or with your family. Besides all this, most importantly, remember to have fun!

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